parallel play: the X factor
Hello friend,
When I started AllSwell a decade ago, journaling workshops weren’t a thing (at least not one I’d ever heard of). I took a creative leap of faith in rolling out these experiences, and boy did they work. I’ve had plenty of years to consider why they’re so effective. Sure, I’m a skilled facilitator. After hundreds of workshops, I’m confident in my craft. But it’s not just that.
By its nature, journaling is a solo activity. It’s just you and the page, the ultimate in analog privacy. Yet…I’ve witnessed something repeatedly occur while leading mindful writing workshops in which groups of people are journaling separately together. A certain “x-factor" seems to enter the room (even digital “rooms”).
Much like parallel play, participants are drawing on the supportive energy of being in community – all without the pressure to constantly engage. Even while not interacting with one another, focusing instead on individual reflection and personal creativity, they’re still being valuably influenced by the collective.
It’s both soothing and inspiring to share a common experience, especially if journaling might otherwise feel awkward or intimidating. When you’re solo, a notebook can be more easily abandoned after a minute or two (or not be started at all). Versus at the AllSwell writing table, whether it be literal or virtual, everyone is engaged in the same activity simultaneously. Participants are more likely to maintain focus. Fewer distractions equals greater concentration, enhanced critical thinking, and more creative room to roam.
Each and every time I lead a session I can feel this click into place. The “mind of the room” coalesces. It’s a beautiful thing to witness, and it usually happens while participants aren’t even speaking. Pens moving, present and focused, group flow state emerges.
I hope you’ll consider joining me for the upcoming MOJO Series (kicking off on Tuesday) to get a big dose of this for yourself. It feels really good and sets you up to get the most out of your pen-to-paper practice on an ongoing basis.
If that’s not your thing, you can try out this parallel play approach at home. Make a creativity date and journal side by side with a friend. Try out exploring the same prompt simultaneously, or venture in different directions.
And let me know how it goes! I find this process to be continually fascinating, and watching people come home to themselves on the page is my favorite thing to do. Better than watching any sunrise or sunset.
As always, let me know if you have any questions. I’m here to help. Keep writing; it works!
In Swellness,
Laura